The Assertiveness Workbook

The Assertiveness Workbook Author Randy J. Paterson
ISBN-10 9781608824168
Year 2000-11-01
Pages 216
Language en
Publisher New Harbinger Publications
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Effective communication is a critical skill that influences your professional success, the stability of your family life, and your personal happiness. Your ability to communicate effectively is seriously hampered if you can't assert yourself constructively. If you've ever felt paralyzed by an imposing individual or strongly argued opposing point of view, you know that a lack of assertiveness can leave you feeling marginalized and powerless. The Assertiveness Workbook contains effective, cognitive behavioral techniques to help you become more assertive. Learn how to set and maintain personal boundaries without becoming inaccessible. Become more genuine and open in relationships without fearing attack. Defend yourself when you are criticized or asked to submit to unreasonable requests. This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit — an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.

When I Say No I Feel Guilty

When I Say No  I Feel Guilty Author Manuel J. Smith
ISBN-10 9780307785442
Year 2011-01-12
Pages 352
Language en
Publisher Bantam
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The best-seller that helps you say: "I just said 'no' and I don't feel guilty!" Are you letting your kids get away with murder? Are you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you? Are you embarrassed by praise or crushed by criticism? Are you having trouble coping with people? Learn the answers in When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, the best-seller with revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way. From the Paperback edition.

Assertiveness

Assertiveness Author Judy Murphy
ISBN-10 1495446859
Year 2011-11-21
Pages 104
Language en
Publisher CreateSpace
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This book shows you how to be a more confident, assertive individual. It teaches you the necessary skills to be decisive and in control of your life. With the information in this guide, you will learn to improve your relationships, move your career forward, and earn the respect of your friends, family, spouse, co-workers, even your boss.

Your Perfect Right

Your Perfect Right Author Robert E. Alberti
ISBN-10 UCSC:32106017404689
Year 2008-05
Pages 299
Language en
Publisher Impact Pub
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All-new edition of the most widely recommended assertiveness training book helps readers develop more effective self-expression with detailed procedures, examples, stories and exercises. The ninth edition has been completely revised and updated to include new material on assertive expression in email and social networks, what to do when assertiveness doesn't work, anger expression, persistence, treatments for social anxiety, giving and receiving criticism, facial expression research, social intelligence, personal boundaries, components of assertive behavior, recent brain research. Not another "me-first" book It's all about equal-relationship assertiveness.

The Assertiveness Guide for Women

The Assertiveness Guide for Women Author Julie de Azevedo Hanks
ISBN-10 9781626253391
Year 2016-08-01
Pages 216
Language en
Publisher New Harbinger Publications
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Isn’t it time you took a stand? Many women struggle with assertiveness, but if you’re prone to anxiety and avoidance, it is especially difficult. Grounded in attachment theory, this essential guide will help you identify your thoughts and feelings, balance your emotions, communicate your needs, and set healthy boundaries to improve your life. When you’re assertive, you’re able to communicate your needs and wishes clearly while respecting yourself and anyone else involved in the interaction. But when you aren’t assertive, you may stop yourself from saying anything when your needs aren’t being met, or end up lashing out in hostile or hurtful ways. People with different attachment styles struggle with being assertive for different reasons, and even women with a secure attachment style may have difficulty expressing emotion when faced with challenging circumstances. Using strategies based in mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), The Assertiveness Guide for Women can help you understand the attachment styles that keep you from asserting yourself. You’ll learn about the three communication stances—from the passive Doormat to the aggressive (or passive-aggressive) Sword to the assertive Lantern—and find practical examples that show you how to apply your new communication and emotional awareness skills in your own life. Rather than being caught in a cycle of rumination and regret when you’re unable to express yourself or even acknowledge your own needs, you’ll be ready to assert yourself and get what you want. Whether you’re anxious and overwhelmed by the intensity of your emotions, avoidant and struggle to identify your emotions, or otherwise have difficulty expressing yourself, this book will help you become more aware of your own thoughts and feelings, and empower you to ask for what you need, set boundaries, and speak your truth for a more fulfilling life.

The Guide to Compassionate Assertiveness

The Guide to Compassionate Assertiveness Author Sherrie Mansfield Vavrichek
ISBN-10 9781608821730
Year 2012-08-01
Pages 216
Language en
Publisher New Harbinger Publications
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Speaking up for yourself has benefits, but it has costs, too. Many people who struggle with assertiveness are paralyzed by worries that they’ll seem mean, petty, or that they will hurt the other person’s feelings. Even though they want to speak up, they may keep their true needs and opinions to themselves because of these fears—eventually building stress, resentment, and alienation. The Guide to Compassionate Assertiveness does not require that readers ignore the needs of others and focus solely on their own desires. Rather, this unique blend of cognitive behavioral therapy-based assertiveness training and Buddhist psychology helps readers practice assertiveness skills while caring deeply about the welfare of others. This book helps readers develop a form of assertiveness that emphasizes collaboration, negotiation, and compromise. It focuses on speaking up for the benefit of others and speaking up for the relationship, not just one’s own needs. In this way, readers learn to assert their needs in ways that match their compassionate value systems. This book is the ideal assertiveness guide for those who are afraid of rejection, have a deep concern for how others perceive them, often feel judged by others, or have difficulty expressing their feelings and needs. Readers learn to apply assertiveness skills in all domains of their lives, including in romantic relationships, as parents, at work, and in social settings.

Too Nice for Your Own Good

Too Nice for Your Own Good Author Duke Robinson
ISBN-10 9780759522053
Year 2000-10-01
Pages 288
Language en
Publisher Hachette UK
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If you're like most folks, you were raised to be "nice". Yet now you find yourself asking: "If I'm so nice, why isn't my life better?" Renowned minister and lecturer Duke Robinson has the answer. Robinson says that well-intended behavior is essential to a humane society, but carries a down side. Being nice often means we take on too much, tell little lies, strive endlessly for perfection, and fall prey to other self-defeating behaviors. Now Robinson outlines the nine unconscious mistakes nice people make daily, and he shows how to correct them and avoid unnecessary stress with life-affirming actions. Learn how to: -- Say "no" and save yourself from burnout -- Tell others what you want, and actually receive it -- Express anger in healing ways that maintain valued relationships -- Respond effectively when i0rrationally criticized or attacked -- Liberate your true self. Are you, like many of us, too nice for your own good? This remarkable book will empower you to get what you need and deserve,out of life...and still be a nice person!

Your Perfect Right

Your Perfect Right Author Robert Alberti
ISBN-10 9781626259621
Year 2017-03-01
Pages 312
Language en
Publisher New Harbinger Publications
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Your Perfect Right—the leading assertiveness guide with over 1.3 million copies sold—is now fully updated and revised. This indispensable guide to equal-relationship assertiveness is packed with step-by-step exercises, tips, and skills to help you express yourself effectively. Are you comfortable starting a conversation with strangers at a party? Do you sometimes feel ineffective in making your needs clear? Do you have difficulty saying no to persuasive people? Everyone needs a little help getting along with others. Assertiveness is a key social skill, as well as a tool for making your relationships more equal. Learning to respond more effectively to others can help you reduce stress and increase your sense of self-worth. In this fully updated and revised tenth edition, you’ll learn practical advice on dealing with difficult people, handling criticism, and expressing your feelings. You’ll also discover how to use humor in conflict resolution, ways to clarify others’ intentions, and how to distinguish between encouraging and discouraging communication habits. This edition also includes a new introduction by coauthor Robert Alberti, in addition to research and information on the subjects of anger and interpersonal communication. Assertiveness is an alternative to personal powerlessness or manipulation. The program in this book will help you develop effective ways to express yourself, maintain your self-respect, and show respect for others. This is not a “me-first” book—it's all about equal-relationship assertiveness!

Your Perfect Right

Your Perfect Right Author Robert E. Alberti
ISBN-10 0915166100
Year 1990-08
Pages 256
Language en
Publisher Impact Pub
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This indispensible guide to equal-relationship assertiveness is packed with step-by-step procedures, detailed examples, and exercises. Completely revised and updated, this new edition includes new material on living in a multicultural society, making the decision to express yourself assertively, all-new recommendations on appropriate anger expression, and much more.

How to Be Miserable

How to Be Miserable Author Randy J. Paterson
ISBN-10 9781626254084
Year 2016-05-01
Pages 232
Language en
Publisher New Harbinger Publications
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In How to Be Miserable, psychologist Randy Paterson outlines 40 specific behaviors and habits, which—if followed—are sure to lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. On the other hand, if you do the opposite, you may yet join the ranks of happy people everywhere! There are stacks upon stacks of self-help books that will promise you love, happiness, and a fabulous life. But how can you pinpoint the exact behaviors that cause you to be miserable in the first place? Sometimes when we’re depressed, or just sad or unhappy, our instincts tell us to do the opposite of what we should—such as focusing on the negative, dwelling on what we can’t change, isolating ourselves from friends and loved ones, eating junk food, or overindulging in alcohol. Sound familiar? This tongue-in-cheek guide will help you identify the behaviors that make you unhappy and discover how you—and only you—are holding yourself back from a life of contentment. You’ll learn to spot the tried-and-true traps that increase feelings of dissatisfaction, foster a lack of motivation, and detract from our quality of life—as well as ways to avoid them. So, get ready to live the life you want (or not?) This fun, irreverent guide will light the way.

Assertiveness Workbook

Assertiveness Workbook Author Dena Michelli
ISBN-10 1444183117
Year 2013-01-25
Pages 256
Language en
Publisher Teach Yourself
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Do you want to be more assertive and get what you want in all aspects of life? Do you want to develop life-long confidence, greater self-esteem and a more effective communication style? This new Teach Yourself Workbook doesn?t just tell you how to become more assertive. It accompanies you every step of the way, with diagnostic tools, goal-setting charts, practical exercises, and many more features ideal for people who want a more active style of learning. The book starts by helping you identify your own preferred styles of learning and communication. It then helps you set specific goals to improve on; as you progress through the book, you will be able to keep checking your progress against these goals. Specially created exercises will help you boost your skills and communication so that you can reach your potential in any situation.

The Complete Idiot s Guide to Assertiveness

The Complete Idiot s Guide to Assertiveness Author Jeff Davidson, MBA CMC
ISBN-10 9781101198568
Year 1997-09-01
Pages 368
Language en
Publisher Penguin
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You're no idiot, of course. You excel at your job, raise great kids, and even participate in local organizations. But when it comes to asserting yourself in tricky situations, you feel like hiding under your desk. Stand up and be heard! The 'Complete Idiot's Guide to Assertiveness' provides you with step-by-step guidelines for asserting yourself with everyone from your kids to your boss. Feel confident about negotiating with your landlord, speaking up at a town meeting, and even telling your mother-in-law that you don't want to come over for dinner! In this 'Complete Idiot's Guide', you get: -Idiot-proof steps to stop you from saying yes when you mean no. -Expert advice on knowing when it's worth it to assert, and when you should just let things ride. -Easy-to-follow guidelines for asserting yourself with your boss. -Tips, definitions and warnings to help you along the way.

Anxious to Please

Anxious to Please Author Craig English
ISBN-10 9781402231759
Year 2006-04-01
Pages 240
Language en
Publisher Sourcebooks, Inc.
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Do you (or does someone you know)... --Apologize frequently or for things you are not responsible for? --Get preoccupied with what other people think of you? --Become unhappy when your partner isn't happy? --Feel worried or fretful so often it seems normal? --Often not know what you want? --Constantly second-guess yourself? Chronic Niceness affects multitudes, causing severe anxiety and depression, crippling self-esteem, and undermining and destroying relationships Anxious to Please reveals the primary psychological cause of Chronic Niceness--Anxious Attachment. Anxious Attachment drives the Nice Person to accommodate, acquiesce and avoid conflict. Nice People take what they're given rather than asking for what they want, often sacrificing relationship, careers and their own integrity. Anxious to Please presents seven powerful practices designed to bring about: resilient self-esteem; a happier and calmer emotional life; a reality-based optimism for the future; fulfilling sex; and satisfying relationships.

What about Me What Do I Want

What about Me  What Do I Want Author Barbara Small
ISBN-10 1412069319
Year 2005
Pages 102
Language en
Publisher Trafford
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Learn practical tips and techniques for effective and assertive communication. This easy-to-read book is a practical and valuable resource for anyone who wants to improve their relationship with themselves and with others in their life. Assertiveness is an essential skill to enhance both our work and personal lives and is beneficial in overcoming addictions and other compulsive behaviors. What About Me, What Do I Want? includes: • A discussion of the four styles of communication • How we learn and keep ourselves non-assertive • The role of our self-talk and our beliefs in becoming and staying assertive. • Overcoming our obstacles to being assertive, such as worrying about other's feelings, meeting everyone else's expectations, and the fear of appearing selfish. • Practical tips on how to be assertive, including saying "no", dealing with criticism, letting go of control and consistently expressing our feelings, wants and opinions • Several checklists and self-reflection questions to help you to apply this practical information to your own life